The Dream

This morning, I had a very vivid dream.

I was biking on a country highway near my grandmother’s house in Pennsylvania. Alone, at night.  No lights.  

It was tough going, as there are many land features in Pennsylvania. Sometimes I had to stand up to get some momentum going, just so my muscles could keep the pedals turning.

Add to this, that I was very tired. So tired I could hardly keep my eyes open. I told myself, “It’s fine, between the rumble strip on one side, and gravel on the other, you’ll know if you get off your path.”

It was chilly. Exhilarating. Exhausting. In hindsight, terrifying. I had no safety vest, no lights. The woods were dark. The sky full of stars. It was hard work, but I kept moving.

How like life.

I don’t know what’s coming over the next hill. I am apparently not energized enough to begin looking for all the potential danger around me. Somehow I find little bits of wonder, little triumphs. Just going to keep pedaling and hoping.

Movement Is The Stuff Of Life

Movement is the stuff of life.

When we move, we keep all our systems vital; muscles, bones, organs, and especially our brains.  

Yoga is a blend of moving and stillness. A symphony of finding our wholeness while moving our bodies through space. A connection in real time between stillness in mind and body and the frantic pace of the world.

Movement is change is the motion of existence. Change is consistently hard, even when it is for the best possible reasons. For the greatest possible benefit, to the greatest number of people.

What will it take for you to let yourself be moved? What about finding a moment on your mat, to be moved? A perspective change from what needs to change, to being open to the vastness of possibility?

Not a Coincidence

Yesterday would have been my mom’s 82 birthday. Cancer sucks and Pancreatic Cancer is like the sick cherry on top of the sucky sundae.

My car is being repaired and I found myself at home all day. I was going to make the kids muffins, but didn’t have the chocolate chips I needed. So I decided to make a coffee cake. Something I’ve done maybe 5 times in my life.

At 1 a.m. last night I was wide awake for no good reason. As my brain spun back down to sleep I realized I had made a cake that I associate with my mom on her birthday. It turned out really well. Much better than the frozen ones or box mix cakes we used to make her as kids. And it wasn’t a coincidence.

Happy birthday, Mom. Hope you liked your cake.

A Life's Work

“Don’t make your life’s work of It.”

Did your parents say that?  Mine did.  Both of them.  A lot.  Long before I knew what a life’s work was or what my life’s work would be, I was picking up ideas that I shouldn’t waste my time on other stuff.

That’s not what my parents meant.  They meant, “Hurry up!”

That’s OK.  Now that I’m on the other side of the parent/child relationship, I’ve come to really appreciate that sometimes what I say is not what is heard or understood.  Often times, for the betterment of my people. 

Today, I broke out the nice, heavy, padded chairs I used in the old studio to teach Chair Yoga and enhance Restorative Yoga.  I lovingly cleaned all the chrome.  I took my time and vacuumed them fully.  Then I spot cleaned the fabric on them.

On the third round of spot cleaning, waiting for them to dry, and spot cleaning again, I thought to myself, “I’m literally making my life’s work of this.”

That’s OK.  It feels right to be making my life’s work of something now.

I’m very excited to bring Chair Yoga back to the studio.  If you’re looking for a gentle start to yoga, a gentle way to restart yoga, taking care of an injury or your joints, or looking for a fun way to improve strength, flexibility, and mobility -- Chair Yoga is something you should try.

Answers and Questions

Answers and Questions


I’ve spent some time in my life looking for answers.  I’ve looked outside, inside, and all around the house.  There was a time I thought meditation would bring it all to me.  All I had to do was sit still enough.


Maybe that’s true.  Maybe meditation is an answer to “how can I get more answers?”


These days what I find is that my dreams, if I can remember them, have answers and many more questions.


Last night I dreamed I found myself working in a really poorly stocked kitchen, that was pretty disgustingly dirty.  I had made plans to watch season 3 of The Bear, but had not see any episodes of it in quite some time.  So probably the tension, disgust, and frustration was not related to the show.


As I worked away in the less than pristine conditions, I realized it was a home kitchen.  My home kitchen.  I was making the best of the situation.  What I used to call my super power, and recently realized is actually a lingering trauma response.  


I noticed a crack between a wall and a cabinet.  I looked closer, shined a light inside and inside found a dark, deep and creepy space.  I ignored what I found and kept on working.


I left the kitchen to do something else and when I came back, the roll of paper towels was spinning away while the towels disappeared into the widening gap and down the scary dark cave.


It is no mystery that I have a looming fear of what lies below our cracks in our world.  I don’t need a professional to decipher this particular nocturnal vision.  But I take heart in a few of the other details.  I don’t need things to be perfect to keep going.  I’ll keep showing up, and doing what I can.


Knowing that I can count on me, it means something.


Then tonight, when I was making pizza for dinner, a fault line opened up in me.  It’s been a while and the temperatures and humidity are different.  I got the first pizza onto the peel and then couldn’t get it off into the oven.  I scraped it off with a spatula.  That is not good form.  When the timer went off, I went to get it out and it was stuck.  I used the spatula to scrape as much as I could off the 500 degree pizza steel.  While the cheese melted onto the oven rack and the bottom of the oven.


When I got as much as I could safely get out of the oven at that temperature, I closed the oven and turned it off.  I then went and told my husband I could not make pizza tonight.  As I cried.  A lot.


Funny, cracks opening up in the kitchen in my dreams . Cracks opening up in me in my actual kitchen.


The husband went to pick up Chipotle and the kids came and gave me big hugs.  No matter what you do, not everything is going to work out according to your plans.  No matter what I do, not everything is going to work out according to my plans.  It’s still ok.  It will still be OK.

Time, Perspective

"We see the world and things not as they are but as we are." ~ Immanuel Kant, 18th-century German philosopher


Recently the internet brought to my attention the fact that 1918 is as far from 1973 as 2024.  This awareness brought to mind a memory of spending time with my grandparents. It was the 1970’s and I saw them through a child’s eyes.  I saw them only as “old people.”  People I loved and valued, to be sure.  But as though their whole existence was them at their advanced age.  At the same time I perceived my parents as middle aged, my grandparents as elderly, and perceived myself simply as “me”.  


It was impossible to see myself as anything other than what I was, when I was aware of being at all.  It was impossible for me to think of my parents or grandparents as ever having existed as anything other than how I was then experiencing them.


Later, when I was in college, I got to know some of them more as people.  We talked about their childhoods, their hopes and dreams, but not so much about their experiences of change, growth, or aging.  I wish we’d gotten around to that.


Now I’m older than my parents were, closer to the age of my grandparents in the 1970’s.  Still experiencing myself as simply “me” and not a particular age.  As I somehow find my way toward being elderly, I’m working on remaining open.  Open to the possibility of seeing things not only from my limited experience and perspective.  Being aware of when my perspective is limited, and expanding my acquaintance and knowledge beyond little old me.


Don’t know if I’ll ever be “one”, or even experience a tiny piece of what it means to see the world in more than binaries.  But I’m willing to keep trying.

Let’s Talk About (my) Anger

Anger can be useful; helping us create and maintain boundaries, as well as stand up for ourselves and others.  But enough generalities.  Getting personal without oversharing is a vulnerable and challenging task for me. 


I grew up in an environment where my feelings were ignored, overlooked, or flat out shut down.   I’d rate it zero out of 5 starts, do not recommend.  Anger especially had to be hidden, as it would be punished.  So I learned that my feelings weren’t important, they could be ignored (even by me), and I could just stuff them down.  This strategy created many smoldering embers,  waiting inside.  Eventually I had too many smoldering embers, no skills for processing my feelings (my life), and was old enough to be on my own.   Soon enough I found not embers, but a raging fire waiting to be stirred up and fired up by any passing breeze of emotion, conflict, upset.  I flared into anger at the slightest provocation. 


As I graduated college and worked through progressively more responsible and stressful jobs, my struggles with anger intensified.  Little sleights by clients, coworkers, or bosses would get ignored or stuffed, until suddenly I hated my job.  I went through a lot of wonderful friends, moving on and moving on and moving on, because I didn’t have the sense or skills to recognize and resolve conflict very well.


Not only did I lack the skills to process my feelings, I had zero positive skills in managing stress.  So, I pushed down and ignored the stress and did my best version of work hard play hard.  I would work incredibly hard at work and come home to do nothing but crash.  Playing hard evolved into drinking, mostly.


The stress I ignored and stuffed attacked my body.  I cracked a couple of my molars, developed carpal tunnel syndrome, struggled to sleep well, migraines worsened, and had my first autoimmune flare-up..  All in the same timeframe.  It was a loud and compelling call to change, but I wasn’t even remotely aware of what needed to change.  See, I didn’t think my job was that stressful.  I didn’t think I had an emotional short circuit.


But I heard that yoga might help with my wrist, my migraines, the jaw clenching… So I tried it.  


I had worked out at gyms before, but being on the floor and breathing out loud in a room full of people I didn’t know, then laying down at the end and closing my eyes was awkward and awful, in the moment.  But then I got up to leave and realized that I actually felt good inside. It was new and different and so much better than I ever felt leaving a gym.


Yoga was one hour, twice a week then.  It was cheaper than therapy, and I didn’t have to tell anyone what was wrong with me.  I had no intention of going to therapy, but I was starting to understand that yoga presented me with opportunities to learn about myself, places I needed to grow, build life skills, befriend my emotions, and cool my jets.  Plus, as I got stronger and more flexible I felt more at home in my own body.  Maybe for the first time in my life.


The anger still shows up, in real-time now.  It’s not the default setting.  Sometimes I get overwhelmed, plain old frustrated, scared, and vulnerable.  Rarely do they show up dressed up in fiery anger.  


When I was a teen, when asked how I feel, I would often respond with, “I don’t know.”  It was better to not know.  It was safer to not know.  It was easier to gauge what was acceptable for me to feel, or if I could just pretend not to feel at all.  


My ability to be present, to show up for myself, was impeded by my losing touch with my feelings.  Calm and steadiness of mind were not my norm, especially when at any moment the squished down feelings could have burst free and swamped me.  The distance between reacting and acting was not only unknown to me, but totally insurmountable.  I couldn’t see or feel a difference.


When I started practicing yoga, I didn’t do it every day.  I wasn’t always fully present.  Nobody waved a wand and magically transformed me.  Many things were said that went right over my head, because I simply didn’t have access.  When I asked my teacher, she said, “Don’t worry about it.  Those things weren’t meant for you.”  


Over time, by showing up on my mat as best I could, I learned how to reliably downregulate my nervous system.  I learned how to show up and stick around, even when things got messy, when my feelings were overwhelming, when I was tired, or disappointed. I learned how to do it on the mat, with low stakes, and I carried it into the rest of my life.


I’ve live by these ideas now:  show up, do the work, don’t worry about where it will get you or how quickly, slow down, get to know yourself, figure some stuff out, and enjoy your life more.  Maybe that’s why I’m willing and able to meet you where you are, and walk with you along this path for a while. 

Thoughts on Yoga Therapy

Lots of people these days are looking for the quick answer, the pill, the person who just being in their presence is going to make things better.

Yoga doesn’t work like that. While you may feel better in different ways the first time you leave class, it’s more like the pennies you put in your piggy bank for years and years until one day you realize it’s too heavy to pick up, it’s so full of your riches.

Yoga Therapy (YT) is also an investment and because of the individualized focus, brings greater returns.  The focus in YT is working collaborative with you to help heal things like old injuries, correct alignment and posture, and generally creating change.  With YT’s varied approaches we can work together toward changes in mind, body, relationships with self and others, and getting clear about your path.  As with yoga practice, it’s not an instantaneous process, but you may find yourself feeling a little better almost immediately.  

Investing time and energy can sound daunting.  But investing deeply in the change you seek can help make permanent changes.  If we examine the myriad inputs and experiences that got you to where you are now, it’s easier to see that it will take time to undo, adjust, and move beyond.  Our aches, pains, trials and tribulations, injuries, and diseases didn’t accumulate in 24 hours. In the same way it took time for them to build up to become increasingly painful or a problem, solutions need to build on themselves, they take time. Healing requires an investment in yourself.  An investment of your time, energy, and capacity to create change.

Yoga Therapy can help with framework, understanding, visualization, mobilizing resources, motivation, and the work we do together can move you toward all kinds of healing.  Often once a single change is achieved, others become clearer and/or more accessible.

If you are ready or willing to try, I’d love to collaborate with you on the change you are seeking.